Frequently Asked Questions

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How do we begin praying together?

Will we see results from praying right away?

What if we get busy, forget, and skip a day in our praying commitment?

Do you need to be married to take The 40 Day Prayer Challenge^TM?

How does the power of Couples Who Pray affect families?

What if I'm fearful about being unguarded and vulnerable with my partner?

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How do we begin praying together?

SQuire: If you've never shared the most intimate act with another person...it's scary. It seems like we're asking you to cross the Golden Gate bridge on your hands and knees. But believe me...once you start...it's like crossing a footpath.

Louise: In the book, Couples Who Pray, SQuire and I lay out Ten Tips on how to get started on your daily prayer together. But one of the best ways to start...is for one of you to take the other person by the hand and say..."honey...would you just hold my hand...you don't even have to say a word..."

SQuire: Pauletta Washington reminded us that there are no special words to use when you pray together...no thee's and thou's...

Louise: It's just having a conversation with your Father. I like to think, "how would I speak to my father if we were just sitting down to have a cup of coffee and a bagel."

Will we see results from praying right away?

SQuire: I'll tell you this, the 24 Test Couples who took The 40 Day Prayer Challenge^TM for our book Couples Who Pray, DID see results right from the beginning.

Louise: Some couples were married only 2 years...others over 25 years...and within two weeks they all reported back...ecstatic with what was beginning to happen in their lives.

SQuire: Most couples say it's "life changing".

Louise: Others have said, "I felt like I was on my honeymoon again. "Or..."I couldn't believe how praying together allowed me to see the heart of my partner."

What if we get busy, forget, and skip a day in our praying commitment?

Louise: First of all, that happens to all of us. We all have busy lives. But SQuire and I have learned how to make certain we get in our five minutes of prayer time, even if we're in the back of a cab enroute to an airport. Or, if we're in different cities, we pray over the phone.

SQuire: Our co-author of the Couples Who Pray Study Guide, Michael Simone came up with a great idea. In golf, if you hit a bad shot, you can give yourself a "mulligan" and move the ball. He suggests, if you forget your daily prayer with your partner, take a "prayer mulligan"...tack the five minutes you missed, onto your next prayer session.

Do you need to be married to take The 40 Day Prayer Challenge^TM?

SQuire: No. The principles of the power of two people praying together on a regular basis, is just as applicable for engaged couples, for two sisters, Mother-Daughter...and so on.

Louise: The ancient scriptures provide the answer: "Where two or three are gathered in my name"...praying..."I am there among them." (Mathew 18:20)

SQuire: But, a friend of ours, Samantha Landy author of Savvy Singles, cautions...particularly young men and women who are not yet married..."Keep in mind that praying together IS the most intimate act between two people"...

Louise: And, when couples pray together...there IS a greater closeness and attraction.

How does the power of Couples Who Pray affect families?

Louise: In extraordinary ways! Pauletta and Denzel Washington pray together. And she told us that they have taught their kids to pray. Pauletta remembered seeing her parents pray together. She said it struck her as very romantic. And there was a closeness that she wanted to emulate in her own family.

SQuire: While it is essential, in our view, for couples to pray together, a minimum of five minutes a day, every day...it IS important to bring your children into the prayer circle from time to time...and to let your children witness your commitment to prayer.

What if I'm fearful about being unguarded and vulnerable with my partner?

SQuire: That vulnerability probably IS the most frequent contributor to the scariness of praying together. Like I said before, it seems like we're asking you to cross the long, Golden Gate bridge on your hands and knees...

Louise: Fearfulness has been a barrier to many couples from praying together. Former Supermodel Cristina Ferrare told us that she was afraid that she'd be embarrassed to share such an intimate time and thoughts with her husband Tony. But, once they did...the barriers of fear came down...and wonderful things began happening in their lives.

SQuire: And that Golden Gate bridge...became nothing more than crossing a footpath.